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There is something contradictory about the term single swingers. After all swinging
is defined as being "a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults,
most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples
for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships."
The word swingers itself suggest some
type of exchange between two (2) parties. So how is it that there can be singles
swingers as there is no exchange that can be done. That said, i think there are
reasons why there are singles swingers and furthermore, i think there is a place
for singles in the swinging lifestyle. Consider a woman or a man who was introduced
to swinging with their spouse/partner. Now imagine that that person somehow is separated
(by way of divorce or death). That person may have developed a bond with some couples
or the lifestyle in general. Many couples also from time to time may want to just
want to be with one person (male/or female). The more common type is couples seeking
females where the women are both bi or bi-curious. But there are also couples who
seek male usually to satisfy a woman's fantasy to have two (or more) men paying
her some attention.
Here are some Special considerations
Singles must take in account while visiting a club or meeting people.
- My (unscientific) estimate is that there are
5 single men for every couple/single female. So you have a tougher competition.
So you must sell yourself better. This means that you must be clean, polite, well
dressed and well mannered and understand the lifestyle. In other words... You must
have class.." Remember that as a single male you are under continual scrutiny...
- If you are pushy, rude, act badly or don't take no for an answer,
you will find yourself marked for avoidance. Some clubs will even ban you. This
is very important. Remember some couples are new and are shy and/or unsure about
either the lifestyle or you. Take it easy. Let them warm out to the potential idea
of letting you be intimate with them.
- NEVER APPROACH THE WOMAN FIRST. I have been in this lifestyle for
over a decade but it's such a turn off to me when a man approaches me especially
when i am with my husband. You should engage the man first in a general conversation.
Do not come out right and ask for sex.
- Swinging is a lifestyle. And people do have other activities in common
other than the act of sex. Keep in mind that just because you talk or dance with
someone that doesn't mean they want to have sex with you. It could happen, be cool
not pushy. Leave all your phony pick-up lines at home, just be honest and be yourself.
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