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Ok, so you heard all about
it. Swinging, alternative lifestyle, swappers...whatever you want to call it swinging
today is becoming more and more a reality that society has to "deal" with. I don't
use "deal" in the sense of "dealing" with the problem of drugs, violence or crimes.
I mean accept it and eventually embrace it.
Q:What is swinging?
Swinging is a form of recreational social sex
between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting
other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships
In the 21st century
it is more important than ever that swingers be entitled to choose their own lifestyle
without persecution. The social system has been shaped by history, creating a changing
set of expectations considered "normal". We have been influenced by changing social
orders in an age in which the pressures to conform to former norms are being seriously
questioned. The ideal of romantic marriage provides a model where the marital partners
have exclusive sexual rights to each other and the duty to satisfy each other's
physical and emotional needs. Many marital partners experience disenchantment when
this perfect ideal fails.
Most people are critical
in their perceptions of the world and wish desperately to enlarge the boundaries
of their lives. Swingers are just such people. Swingers are members of a group that
is actively seeking changes in stereotyped attitudes toward differences from outdated
traditional values. Many have undergone positive changes in their own attitudes
toward themselves, their partners and others. They have taken the opportunity to
be free to choose to behave in ways, which were restrained from past conditioning.
As adults we have not been free to choose an alternative lifestyle without being
subjected to destructive responses from the majority of people in society, family,
friends, neighbors etc.
Adults have the potential
for creating various relationship forms where they can achieve mutual support, fulfillment
of love and fellowship needs. It is important to evaluate this form of human relationship
{swinging} by the caring nature of the responses they offer to others who engage
in their lifestyle, rather than by the physical pleasures they take.
Respect for different
relationship choices demands a great deal more internal character on the part of
adults than most have. To overcome the pressures, set out by the moral fundamentalists
and our own lying families, to conform to their traditional expectations is overwhelming.
It is always easier to blend in by accepting cultural expectations than to "rock
the boat" and be an individual with opposing beliefs. Unaware that their reactions
to the unknown are anchored in their pre-programmed childhood, causes a terrible
dilemma for the adult. Only through serious self-exploration can we find a mind
set not influenced by others personal agendas. What do they say, "Only the strong
survive"? Well in this case only the strong of mind prevail in marching through
the pit of the status quo and locating the tranquility the swinging lifestyle offers
and will continue to offer into the next millennium.
Q:How do I meet a swinger?
Well the concept of swinging is still
a taboo so people don't go around wearing t-shirt that says I am a swinger. But
you will be surprised to know that your best friend, colleague or neighbor has been
participating in the lifestyle.
One way to meet swingers
is to go to swingers clubs.( once you become member, we will send you a list of
clubs in your area) I am sort of amazed how many clubs are forming and how many
members they claim every week. Most clubs require medicals and are couples only.
Also there are telepersonals.
These are telephone ads with people desiring to meet you.
Usually these services are not up-to-date, are expensive and it take a lot of luck
and effort to meet someone compatible.
And then you have internet
swinging...such as this. Sure you would expect me to tell you that this is the best
way to meet a swinger. But actually, its not... I am a fervent swinger myself and
I have been surfing the net since '89 in the lifestyle. I have been duped, posted
hundreds of ads, spent a lot of money on membership fees, wasted time answering
ads from perverts. This site tend to answer or correct all that and make it easier
for the newcomers in the lifestyle to join in.
Q:Is it Safe?
I wish I could tell you it
is completely. But if it is any comfort to you, I could say that I have been heavily
involved in the lifestyle and never had any problem nor did I hear anything out
of the ordinary. But It is in order for me here to advise you to use your judgment
and the littlest things are the most important:
- never give detailed info in ads
- exchange a lot of email before meeting
- if the other party is pushing to meet sooner, forget
him/her/them
- only give info when you feel comfortable
- ask for their telephone # or exchange #s at
the same time.
- talk on the phone before meeting
- always tell a friend or parent about the relationship,
where and when you will meet the persons and give them as many details as you can
about the other party.
- let the other party know (subtly of course) that your
friend or parent is aware of your meeting.
- always meet in a public place.
- USE COMMON SENSE.
Q: How do I convince my partner?
Of all the questions,
this is the most asked and the most difficult from my stand point to answer since
I did not have to go through the process of convincing my partner. But in any case,
i think the answer will vary from one individual to another.
If you are married,
I strongly suggest you try and involve your wife. Your swinging alone is not a good
sign of a good marriage. Swinging is and should be much different than having an
affair. It should be an enjoyable activity that a couple participate in and can
in most case reinforce the liens. Let her know of your intents and you might be
surprised.
One of the reason why
a partner might refuse at all to participate in the lifestyle is if they feel as
though they are not satisfying you and you are looking for something else. Make
sure you show them that you are happy with what you have and that you only wish
to expand your sexual life.
Q:What are my chances of
meeting through your sevices?
You will be surprised how many people are looking
for the same thing. Some just can't have enough of it, some are lonely, some are
housewives, some (most) are couples looking to expand their sexual life. So it al
depends what you are looking for. But most ads placed here are genuine, current
and decent therefore you will not be wasting your time.
Q:Who are you??!!!
My name is Carolina (34) and my husband
is John(31). I am (was) a school teacher and she is registered nurse. We met here
on the net through a personals service.
And we immediately got involved in the lifestyle. We wanted to give something back
to the community that got us together. So we decided to create this page.
Since then this page has extended, we have been acquired by Webguinea (to improve
the performance and add functionality to the site) but we still fight to keep this
site focused on helping others realize their dreams and fantasies.
We are still actively
involved in the lifestyle. We live in the Atlanta, GA area. Besides swinging, we
enjoy movies, traveling and swimming.
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